I only have one resolution – no more self help!

But wait – I want to make positive changes in my life.  Isn’t that self help?  Is my resolution a contradiction?  I don’t think so.  I’m no longer paying anyone to tell me how to do and what to do.  I must discover these things for myself.  And for the most part – I think I know how and what to do.

And no amount of money spent, words read or listened to will actually do anything towards my feeling my core desired feelings: Light, Pleasure, Open.

What will?  Consistently doing the things I know that will help me feel those ways:

  • I  feel LIGHTer when I consistently
    • Stop eating when I no longer get pleasure from the food. (2 feelings, one stone!)
    • Am open enough to laugh at myself (another 2-fee!)
    • Give myself permission to do silly things (blow bubbles)
    • Finish projects
    • Get my stuff done
  • I  feel PLEASURE when I consistently
    • Do what I say I’m going to do (walk, Barre 3, cook, journal, etc)
    • Take time to pamper myself
    • Take time with one of the cats
    • Make my home office peaceful
    • Make my work office (cube, let’s be honest) is peaceful
    • Knit with exquisite fiber and needles
  • I feel OPEN I am consistently
    • Honest with my loved ones about my particular needs.
    • Honest with myself
    • Let myself feel without being embarrassed
    • Hear others
    • Practice gratitude

My goal for the year – word for the year – is Consistently.  It describes how I want to to live my life.

By the way – I tweaked my core desired feelings some –

Light is still key.  I want to feel light in body, spirit and mind.  It’s not always achievable, but I know I can feel that way most days.

I settled on Pleasure when I realized I really want to feel the way I do when I take that first bit of Key Lime Pie at Dan’s Grill in Blairsville GA. (yes, that’s a plug – it’s the best Key Lime Pie I’ve ever eaten and it makes me swoon).  That first bite makes me smile all the way down to my toes.  I want more of that in my life.  And I want to learn to get it without food!  (Delicious isn’t a feeling, or that would be my CDF)

And Open is new.  It’s also hard.  It’s the pathway to having integrity and love in my life, so it’s critical.  It’s time for some walls to start coming down.

How do you want to feel in 2015?  How are you going to get there?

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About Maura

an erstwhile former weight management blogger writing about life without diet should's and should not's filter.
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2 Responses to I only have one resolution – no more self help!

  1. Zazamataz says:

    The hardest thing for me to wrap my head around is accepting/liking myself as I am while at the same time improving or making better the things I don’t like. On an intellectual level I know those things don’t really contradict, emotionally it feels that they do.

    I don’t think that making positive changes in your life contradicts your no more self help goal. You do mean no more pouring money into self help gurus who tell you that if you only do what they think is important that you’ll be a better person and the sun will shine every day, etc., etc. You seem to be finding your own way, learning what is most important for you and figuring out how to make that happen for you.

    • Maura says:

      Thanks. I decided to live with the ‘contradiction’ because I think we should all strive to be the best we can be, without beating ourselves up and if at all possible not paying someone to tell us how to do it.

      I think the key is being honest with yourself. Knowing what the roadblocks are and figuring out how can they be removed or circumvented is key. Most roadblocks are mental and some are real. Learning the difference and accepting what is has helped me. One of my biggest roadblocks is time and allowing it to be an excuse. Doing so only made me feel worse about myself. So, I’m working around the excuses and staying consistent with my efforts.

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