I’m no where near through reading the Desire Map and working through the exercises. However, I decided that didn’t matter and started where I was (Thank you, Pema Chodron).
I tend to segment my feelings – this is how I want to feel at work, and this is how I want to feel everywhere else. I need to marry that, but again, I’m starting where I am.
So – yesterday morning, I took some quiet time (during work hours, thank you very much) and quickly thought about how I wanted to feel at work and what that meant to me.
The Desired Feelings – At Work:
Then I wrote about what those feelings meant to me and what I needed to do to feel them. Then I sat down and made my To Do list – with the priority on the activities and tasks that would make me feel trust.
Halfway through the day, I realized I left out a really important feeling: healthy. Interesting that. I don’t focus on my health while at work. Why is that? Is my health not important? Is that why it is so easy for me to ignore boundaries and indulge in less than healthy behaviors?
Yes – actually. I realize that I have always put career first – above all else. And here I am today. Overweight and under-careered.
My boss is the polar opposite. She is incredibly health focused as well as career focused. She is able to stick to her priority of taking care of her health before taking care of work. And when she’s taking care of work – she’s really taking care of it. I think I have a lot to learn from her.