Note: this post is not my usual rambling about my weight and desire for it to come off by magic. In my investigating my Core Desired Feelings, I remembered that I get a real kick out writing so, from time to time, I’ll post short essays here rather than a typical blog post.
The drizzle left it’s icy bite on my hands as my husband and I quickly approached the restaurant with a bit of trepidation. We were off for an adventure – trying out a new restaurant. To our surprise, we were personally greeted by the chef and the pointed to an unoccupied area of the restaurant, away from the other patrons. I looked around and realized why: we were the only white people there.
For us, this was a good thing. We were on search for soul food, which is becoming increasingly harder to find. The chef chatted with us for a while and then made his way back to the kitchen to prepare our order.
In the meantime, a man came in out of the cold and asked for a glass of water and if the restaurant was hiring. The man was neatly dressed, but obviously down on his luck and he was cold. As he sipped his water, I began thinking we should offer to buy him lunch. But two ladies beat me to the punch and showed me how charity is supposed to be done: They invited the man to join them as their guest. They gave him more than food – they gave him the gift of companionship and more importantly they preserved his dignity.
I wasn’t looking to score brownie points with my idea to offer the man a meal. His hunger made me uncomfortable and I wanted to do something about it. I know I can’t solve world hunger, but helping one person get through a day without being hungry is doable from time to time. My lesson in humility came from the two ladies who showed me how to help with grace.
This happened a few weeks ago and the experience is still on my mind. It’s made me realize I have a lot to learn about the execution of being charitable. Now when the urge to help strikes, I ask myself if my offer comes from a place of humility.
Can I put down my wants and my needs and seek out what the other person wants and needs and strive to meet those needs?